Ok, if he wants to stay hidden and avoid any interactions, so be it. I think it is a sad way to live.
I'm sorry you don't know what the fuck you're talking about, boomer senility expert.
A reasonable defense of MGTOW—“men going their own way”—is that some young men are responding to a social environment in which they feel relationships, institutions, and public debate no longer reliably reward their participation. At its best, MGTOW means emphasizing independence: building a career, maintaining friendships, improving health, developing purpose, and declining marriage or dating when the perceived costs outweigh the benefits. A man should not be required to pursue romance, fatherhood, or conventional masculinity to be considered successful.
From a young man’s point of view, this stance can seem understandable for several reasons. He may see public institutions increasingly organized around group identity, diversity targets, and historical redress, while being told that his own frustrations are either trivial or evidence of moral failure. The 2023
Students for Fair Admissions decision, for example, ended race-based affirmative action in college admissions at Harvard and UNC after the Court concluded that the policies impermissibly treated race as a negative factor for some applicants. The decision did not concern gender or establish that every diversity program is illegal, but it reinforced a broader public argument that individuals should not be treated as representatives of inherited group categories. Encyclopedia Britannica1
That argument can resonate with young men who believe that fairness should be individual rather than demographic. They may also feel that modern discussions of gender often treat men primarily as beneficiaries of patriarchy, potential threats, or obstacles to be managed. High-profile debates over sexual misconduct, workplace equity, dating norms, and male privilege have addressed real problems, but a young man can experience the surrounding rhetoric as collective suspicion: he is expected to accept responsibility for historical wrongdoing while receiving little recognition for difficulties affecting men today, such as educational underperformance, social isolation, precarious work, or uncertainty about acceptable masculine behavior.
MGTOW can therefore function as a refusal of compulsory participation. Its strongest version says: “I will not define my worth by female approval, and I will not enter arrangements I regard as legally, financially, or emotionally unsafe.” That can be a rational personal boundary. Marriage and relationships involve genuine obligations, and men are entitled to evaluate those obligations carefully rather than being shamed into accepting them.
The important distinction is between withdrawal from an institution and hostility toward a class of people. A man may decide not to marry without concluding that women are manipulative, inferior, or collectively responsible for his disappointments. He may criticize family law, workplace policies, or dating culture while still treating women as individuals. Likewise, opposition to race-based preferences can be grounded in equal treatment without denying the historical discrimination that gave rise to affirmative action. The Court itself left room for considering an applicant’s individual experiences, including experiences of discrimination, so long as the person is evaluated as an individual rather than assigned a group-based advantage. Justia1
Constant organized discrimination—whether actual, perceived, or inconsistently applied—can produce hostility and apathy through a predictable process:
- Loss of trust: If institutions repeatedly communicate that a person’s sex, race, or class makes him morally suspect or less deserving, he may stop believing that rules are neutral.
- Status threat: Repeated exclusion or public devaluation creates anger because it signals that advancement depends on identity rather than effort.
- Learned futility: When people conclude that hard work will not change outcomes, they often disengage rather than continue investing in institutions they consider rigged.
- Group generalization: Frustration with organizations can be redirected toward the people associated with them. This is where justified institutional criticism can become misogyny, racism, or another form of scapegoating.
- Emotional self-protection: Apathy can become a shield against rejection. If a young man decides that dating, school, politics, or work are pointless, he no longer has to risk disappointment—but he also forfeits opportunities for connection and achievement.
This mechanism applies broadly. Discrimination against women and minorities has historically generated anger, alienation, and political resistance; the same psychological dynamics can affect men when they believe they are being collectively blamed or disadvantaged. Recognizing male grievance does not require accepting every claim made in its name. It means understanding that people who are repeatedly told they are privileged, dangerous, or expendable may eventually respond with resentment or withdrawal.
A constructive defense of MGTOW should therefore defend autonomy, equal treatment, skepticism toward coercive social expectations, and the right to opt out—not contempt for women or permanent isolation. The healthiest version is a disciplined personal philosophy: improve your life, choose relationships freely, demand reciprocal standards, criticize institutions specifically, and avoid turning private disappointment into a theory that half the population is inherently corrupt. That preserves the legitimate insight behind MGTOW while rejecting the hostility that can make it self-defeating.